You would have heard by now about the rape and murder of Aiia Maasawe as she walked home.
We have heard this story before – with Eureydice, with Jill and with many other women before them.
And each time this despicable crime is almost over shadowed by cries of ‘Not all men.’
Yes, we know it’s not all men. This goes without saying.
You might remember when King Hits or Coward Punches were occuring more often.
Usually happening between the hours of midnight and 6am, and usually involving alcohol.
Research showed that victims or offenders were likely to be men between 15 and 25 years old.
When King Hits started becoming a problem there was an uproar. And rightly so. The King Hit became known as The Coward’s Punch and tougher penalties were introduced.
The One Punch Campaign was introduced which targeted, you guessed it, men aged 15 to 25 years.
No one was offended about this. In fact it was widely supported.
Not once did I ever hear Why was he drinking? Or, What was he doing out at that time of night? I did not hear Not all young people.
Or, Not all men.
Because it went without saying. We knew that not all men were going to come up behind you and hit you in the head. Duh.
Between 2000 and 2013, 90 men were killed by Cowards Punch. I’m sure the family and friends of these victims will agree, It is 90 too many.
However it’s still far less than the amount of women killed by a man. You know what the statistic is – 1 women every week.
Where are the tougher penalties for murderers of women? Where are the in-your-face-cant-ignore-this-problem campaigns? Why aren’t we calling the murder a coward?
No, instead we’re offended and talking about ‘not all men.’ And it has to stop.
We have to stop this war between the genders. Being divided in the way we are is not going to solve this problem. It’s time to start working together.
If you see/hear toxic behavior towards a women, speak up. Call the person out. If it’s severe, call the cops.
Talk to your family, your friends, your kids. Get the conversation going about the right way to treat a women, and for that matter, the right way to treat anyone.
Get the conversation going about how to deal with your problems and emotions before they explode.
Let’s focus on the issue at hand here – that women are being murdered every week. That lives are being torn apart, never to be the same again.
Real people are losing mothers, sisters, aunties and friends. Real people have to deal with the traumatic death of a loved one.
We do not need to be dealing with the ego of those who are offended and shouting ‘Not all men.’ Because we know it’s not all men, just like we do with a Coward’s Punch.
Instead of saying Not All Men, how about we start saying We Won’t Stand for Our Women Being Killed.
Let’s work together and use our voices to speak up and change this horrific violence and toxic behavior towards women.
It cannot go on any longer.